Give me the Lights, Precious Lights

While all those bikers had their thing going on in France, for me this past month has been an amazing Tour de Force for providing Network Care!  It started mid-July with a half day workshop that Jenny and I created and facilitated - Awaken to Action - hosted by the dynamic duo Dr. Aimee and Ian Davis at In Touch Wellness in Rockland, Maine.  We had a wide range of participants from relative Network Care ...Read more


"I have much more balance, more ability to quickly recover from setbacks, and more ability to keep doing what is good for me even when things are very difficult. I have lost about 35 lbs. since I began care here."

Patricia G. – Seattle, WA
It’s the Little Things

Have you ever had one of those moments where someone says something that fundamentally shifts the way you were thinking?  Recently my wife Jenny reminded me of a truth.  I was telling her that I was sad not to be giving her the lavish presents this Valentine’s Day that I feel she deserves.  Without a beat, she reminded me of a few little things I had given her in the recent past and how much those had meant to her.  It wasn’t the ‘bigness’ or cost of the gifts that made them special, but merely my act of being thoughtful and giving more often in little ways that brought her joy.  I realized what I was really doing.  Telling her my woes of not feeling able, at this time in our life, to shower her with luxuries was a cop out from being creative.  I think secretly, unconsciously (yes, I go there), I wanted the act of telling her I wanted to buy her expensive things to count for something.  Nothing doing.

“Sometimes when I consider what tremendous consequences come from little things. I am tempted to think there are no little things.”

~ Bruce Barton

I was reminded of the power of ‘little things’ as the building blocks to all our relationships – a truth I witness everyday in working with people at Nourish & Flourish.  As I make gentle touch contacts on spines, I witness profound physical, emotional, mental, and even spiritual shifts.  I like to say, “Truth is truth no matter how you slice it.”   And yet sometimes, as in this example, just because I KNOW something intimately in one aspect of my life, doesn’t mean that I apply it to every other aspect.  However, once you truly embody something in one aspect of your life, it can simply require a shift in perception that allows the behavior to follow suit.

Little things can also work in the opposite direction.  When a relationship goes south, and I don’t mean for a vacation in the Bahamas (a big thing!), it is usually a stacking of all the little annoying things that create the resistance, resentment, rejection, and repression that lead to the eventual demise of a union.  Listening to your lover’s “Please do not..” requests and honoring them is also a powerful relationship builder.  Remember, it is not about giving what you want to give, but giving what the other person wants that is the difference between a gift and A GIFT!!!

So in this month that our culture collectively focuses its attention on love and relationship, think of the little things you can do to add depth in all your relationships.  What would it be like to consciously choose to add little tokens of Love in each of the relationships you want to grow.  Now that you’ve thought of it – and I am speaking to myself here as well – what are one or two ‘little things’ that could add tremendous richness to the quality of your relationships.  Giving in little ways may seem to take a lot of energy…at first.  Most things do – at first.  Celebrate your relationships in this month (and beyond this month!) with little things in little ways and feel the big impact it makes.

1 Comment for this entry

Carol Place
February 12th, 2011 on 4:34 am

Happy Valentine”s Day. Your message was thought provoking and full of wisdom. I am so grateful for the love that Dad and I share. Dad is a very focused person when he is excited about what he is doing. Bethel was a great place for him, but we did not spend much time together because he was not around. Maybe his illness was for a reason – now we are never apart. But I love him dearly and he loves me and all is good. And we send lots of love to you.